I was just thinking about the poor gay porn star who just died; judging from his real last name – I am going to assume that he was born a Catholic. In fact, from my own experience, some of the most aggressive and hard-living gay men that I knew – were all ones who grew-up Catholic. Why? Have we as the Catholic faithful failed these men (and women.) I think we have. Have we reached out? Or have we condemned? Have we offered Love? Or have we blamed?
While trying to shop around my book and hoping for some other Catholics to take an interest in helping me: I met a similar attitude. In the beginning, most were interested, even enthusiastic, when I told them about my past; and yes, I told them I was once in porn. When, I said it was gay porn: the conversation changed. Suddenly, it wasn’t right, or the content was off, or there was no time or room. OK, I thought, I will move on. But on the other hand, I have been embraced by many Protestants and Evangelicals. Is it the priest-sex scandal that has made some Catholics shy away from the issue? Or are they afraid to actually declare what the Faith teaches; especially when many will hate them for stating it? I think, a big part is: we have just become too complacent and preoccupied with our own silly lives (me included) to reach out to souls in need. I know it's more complicated than just that (the acceptance of homosexuality [promiscuity] among the Catholic laity, malformed priests, under or non-Catechesis in schools, just plain laziness concerning the Faith.) But, Catholics: We need some Milites Christi (Soldiers of Christ.) True Catholicism is hard work.