Saturday, February 9, 2013

Why are there so many Gays who are Ex-Catholics?


I was just thinking about the poor gay porn star who just died; judging from his real last name – I am going to assume that he was born a Catholic. In fact, from my own experience, some of the most aggressive and hard-living gay men that I knew – were all ones who grew-up Catholic. Why? Have we as the Catholic faithful failed these men (and women.) I think we have. Have we reached out? Or have we condemned? Have we offered Love? Or have we blamed?
While trying to shop around my book and hoping for some other Catholics to take an interest in helping me: I met a similar attitude. In the beginning, most were interested, even enthusiastic, when I told them about my past; and yes, I told them I was once in porn. When, I said it was gay porn: the conversation changed. Suddenly, it wasn’t right, or the content was off, or there was no time or room. OK, I thought, I will move on. But on the other hand, I have been embraced by many Protestants and Evangelicals. Is it the priest-sex scandal that has made some Catholics shy away from the issue? Or are they afraid to actually declare what the Faith teaches; especially when many will hate them for stating it? I think, a big part is: we have just become too complacent and preoccupied with our own silly lives (me included) to reach out to souls in need. I know it's more complicated than just that (the acceptance of homosexuality [promiscuity] among the Catholic laity, malformed priests, under or non-Catechesis in schools, just plain laziness concerning the Faith.) But, Catholics: We need some Milites Christi (Soldiers of Christ.) True Catholicism is hard work.  

3 comments:

  1. Hi. I am sorry to hear about this. I mentioned before there are not many practicing Catholics in the south. I meet a lot of ex-Catholics and non-practicing Catholics. I ask about their services and what the Bible says out of curiosity (Protestants do not have the Apocrypha). From what they tell me they do not read the Bible often. I am told the Scriptures are barely quoted during service. Mind you, these answers are coming from ex Catholics. If there is some truth to their statements, could this be the reason?

    Jesus was looked down upon because he associated with sinners. Jesus responded the healthy have no need of a doctor.

    Perhaps the Catholics were afraid to sell your book because it discusses homosexuality?

    When I thought about ex-Catholics becoming porn stars my mind went to Communion. A lot of Protestant churches say "You have to get right with God before you take Communion." Friends, this causes a person to focus on sin instead of Jesus. Most importantly, this teaching is not Scriptural.

    1. Jesus instructed us to do this (Communion) in remembrance of him.

    2. Communion is for our health and healing (God does the work, not the elements).

    3. Paul wrote that partaking in Communion unworthily means to treat it as a common meal.

    Philippians 3:9 says God uses our faith in Christ to make us right with him. Romans 5:1 says the same.

    I think some porn performers feel they are nothing and dirty. Friends, I am here to tell you that you are never too dirty to cry out to Jesus. Let him save you and give you a new life. Moses was a murderer. Rahab was a prostitute and she is a direct ancestor of Jesus. Don't let anyone put you down. You have worth. Jesus paid the price for you. He loves you and so do I. T. W.

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  2. Joe, I just updated my own blog and included a link to this and my response that I had posted on Facebook. I didn't think you would mind too much. ;-)

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    1. Thank you so much. Here is the link:
      http://chocolate-tea-and-naps.blogspot.com

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