Wednesday, November 7, 2012

The Gayest States of America

The states of Maine, Maryland, and Washington (unconfirmed) approved same-sex marriages, while Minnesota rejected an amendment that would have forbidden them. This very accepting and liberal attitude I trace back to the introduction of gay porn in the US back in the early 1970s. Before that, homosexuals were often relegated to the proverbial closet, seedy nightclubs, and or underground meeting halls. With the advent of the “porn-chic” movement, all forms of sexual activity became less of a mystery. In fact, the first “main-stream” gay porn film: Boys in the Sand, received positive reviews in major periodicals. The following year, the straight film Deep Throat broke records, and then all bets were off. With the first threshold breached, as often happens, Hollywood took notice of what was going on in porn and then started to feature gay story-lines and characters in several major motion-pictures and television shows: Partners, Making Love, 10, Threes Company, Soap, etc. Now, we all live with the ongoing ramifications: hardcore porn addiction, broken marriages, the strange phenomena of childhood sex-changes and coming-out parties, the acceptance of gay marriage, and the continuing rise of AIDS among the youth.

While I am not advocating a return to the pre-Stonewall days of gay-bashing, for the Catholic Church has always advocated that all men, including those with homosexual tendencies, should be loved and respected, the problem is that the entire modern gay movement was founded on principals of sexual freedom, not the freedom of the human person. The act became the signature of gay liberation. When in reality, all became chained to a dependence upon it, not upon their own worth.


  1. Being overwhelmed with feelings of shame and internalised homophobia is heartbreakingly sad. It is clear you are a gay man and will always be one.

    There is nothing wrong with being gay, having a sexuality or enjoying porn. Hating yourself however is extremely damaging

    Much love to you xxxx

  2. Acknowledging that you sin is a huge step. A lot of people sin and don’t think there’s anything wrong with it while some people finally come to see how destructive sin can be. But God does not want us to live with guilt. He wants us to know and fully experience His forgiveness. Although, sometimes, it is very hard to forgive yourself. We have to remember that when we confess our sins, Jesus cleanses us. I have to work on that all the time. I wish I could forget my sins, but sometimes its not that easy. I understand what Joseph is saying and I don't think he is hating himself, literally.