Wednesday, October 3, 2012

LifeTeen Post: Gay, Catholic, and Doing Fine: A Really Bad Idea

I have noticed this article, Gay, Catholic, and Doing Fine, floating about the Internet for the past week. While I admire the candidness exhibited by the author, especially the strive to be chaste, as a man who lived in the gay lifestyle for 10 years and was a former gay porn star, I have a BIG problem with self-identifying as “gay” (most notable in the title.) First of all, I was surely not immune to this either. I jumped full force into the gay culture as a scared and confused teenager. I was desperately looking for some way to alleviate the pain of my unfulfilled masculinity. I thought that being “gay” was the answer; that other men would pass on their confidence to me. It never worked. I only got used up. To the author: You are not gay. Somewhere you were wounded and that is the way you instinctively coped with this hurt. The whole idea of being “gay” is a modern construct. It existed nowhere in pre-modern times. Although homosexual advocates love to point to the ancient Greeks, they had no word for “gay.” There were men who had sex with men, but it was never an exclusively-contained reality. What you have is SSA, Same Sex-Attraction, this is a psychological condition not a state of being. I was blessed to have been able to study at the feet of the great Fr. John Harvey, founder of Courage. He taught us that we are not a sexual psychosis; it does not define us. To identify as “gay” is dangerous, especially to youth. It feeds into the contemporary slogan that one is “born this way.” It also lets us off the hook to a degree: “ I am gay and that's the end.” But that is not the end. We must dig ever deeper to truly discover why we have this condition, and how God can heal us.

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  1. While the article is well intentioned. I do not believe it is in anyone's self interest to identify as gay. It makes you a slave to your wounds. It stops recovery and healing as you are giving into what someone else says you are. People think I am nuts, but there is no such thing as “gay.” It's a modern invention. Those who are deeply invested in its perpetuation have created this false reality.

  2. Joseph, thank you for writing this so eloquently. God has given you the gift of being exceptionally articulate as well as the strength of honesty. I am praying for you every day. I wish more people understood what you do and could see the situation for what it really is. Keep fighting the good fight with love!

  3. No hesitation the plight of homosexuals is on the top of the list of social problems professed in the EU because this week a meeting is taking place in Europe to address the fact that not everyone is getting onboard with the "gay agenda. Homophobia, transphobia and other forms of sexual orientation discrimination is said to still exist in the EU on a larger scale than the Union wants to see.

  4. Religious freedoms and the "gay agenda are on a crash course in America and this is a speeding train no mere earthly can stop.

  5. Hello, I appreciate your writing.I cherished (and still love) being Catholic. I adored having a place with my area, to my childhood gathering, to the choir, and to the outing advisory group. I needed to be included in anything that permitted me to express my confidence. On the other hand, I now understand that occasionally my enthusiasm for my confidence made me act like I was a piece of an elite club — not the Body of Christ on earth, commissioned to "make supporters of all countries" and I had grown up a Presbyterian Christian who believed that the length of you were a Christian who believed in Jesus, you fit in with the "congregation." It didn't make a difference which church you fit in with or where you went to love on Sundays, it recently mattered on the off chance that you believed in Jesus. In the event that you believed in Jesus, you were doing fine and Dan. Thanks all!!!!!!!!!!!!!