I have noticed this article, Gay, Catholic, and Doing Fine, floating about the Internet for the past week. While I admire the candidness exhibited by the author, especially the strive to be chaste, as a man who lived in the gay lifestyle for 10 years and was a former gay porn star, I have a BIG problem with self-identifying as “gay” (most notable in the title.) First of all, I was surely not immune to this either. I jumped full force into the gay culture as a scared and confused teenager. I was desperately looking for some way to alleviate the pain of my unfulfilled masculinity. I thought that being “gay” was the answer; that other men would pass on their confidence to me. It never worked. I only got used up. To the author: You are not gay. Somewhere you were wounded and that is the way you instinctively coped with this hurt. The whole idea of being “gay” is a modern construct. It existed nowhere in pre-modern times. Although homosexual advocates love to point to the ancient Greeks, they had no word for “gay.” There were men who had sex with men, but it was never an exclusively-contained reality. What you have is SSA, Same Sex-Attraction, this is a psychological condition not a state of being. I was blessed to have been able to study at the feet of the great Fr. John Harvey, founder of Courage. He taught us that we are not a sexual psychosis; it does not define us. To identify as “gay” is dangerous, especially to youth. It feeds into the contemporary slogan that one is “born this way.” It also lets us off the hook to a degree: “ I am gay and that's the end.” But that is not the end. We must dig ever deeper to truly discover why we have this condition, and how God can heal us.
Here is a link to the article: